Monsters under the bed.
Skeletons in the closet.
My Past lives in a Tuff Shed.
I’ve come to believe that at a certain point, life creates a dichotomy.
A dilemma.
Do I maintain my safe, comfortable, familiar life — remain with status quo?
Or.
Experience the life I dream of?
Things I’ve enjoyed throughout my life: Linens. Shiny baubles. Rusty gadgets. Christmas ornaments. Funky hats. Books. The unique, the no-longer-produced, the weird and the wonderful. Hand-crocheted nut cups from the 1940s. Rosebud Haviland china. Depression glass. Silver-plated pewter. Rosepoint crystal. Ginny dolls (predecessor to Barbie). Headboard beneath which my great-grandmother was born. The round 54” claw-foot table that expands to seat 21 at which my grandmother fed a multitude of harvest hands at Threshing Time — at which I fed a multitude of Fab Fam and friends for numerous Thanksgivings. A lovely home nestled in the foothills of the Colorado Rockies.
I also enjoy travel and new experiences. Meeting people. Mountain vistas. Deserted beaches. Sunrises over marshes. Sunsets on the desert. Undulating fields of wheat. Neighborhood bars in foreign countries. Adventure. My family and life in Colorado. Friends and lifestyle in Puerto Morelos. An easy to lock-and-leave, uncluttered, condo near the beach of Mexico’s Riviera Maya.
Precipitated by many of the changes that take place when one proceeds to fifty and beyond, I thoroughly examined and re-invented myself. Actually, with the help of a kick-ass Life Coach, I created the Me I was destined to be. (Wow. That sounds weighty. )
Growth? Definitely.
Scary? Certainly.
Exciting? Unquestionably.
Worth it? Absolutely.
I sold my business. Bought a condo in Mexico. My husband became ill, then Transitioned. Our family home in Colorado found new owners.
My mother also Transitioned, and my brother (who hadn’t spoken to her in over 40 years) protested her “Irrevocable Trust,” and attacked my integrity as the executor and as her daughter.
All this is now resolved. I am stronger for having had these challenging experiences. I have learned to put things into perspective — to lighten the load — to let go of hurt and anger – to forgive.
During these – and other — upheavals of life, I consciously set a direction: Simplify my life – release what no longer serves me.
Sounds easy enough. The actual logistics, however, were practically overwhelming.
Take a deep breath. Believe in the Outcome. One step at a time.
Making the decision to release my house – my home for over 20 years – and all the wonderful Stuff in it — was major.
The basement den was delegated for Stuff To Release.
Staring at shelves holding more than 60 years of book acquisitions, here’s a sample conversation with Self:
“I can’t get rid of this book. I love this book.
Mary. Seriously. Will you ever read this book again?
Well. Probably not. Actually. No.
Ever heard of a library?”
Many similar conversations followed by enough trips to Tradesmart, which pays 25-cents to a dollar per book, netted nearly $1000 and a barely a tad of freed-up space. A beginning.
My daughter Leslie provided the best mantra, “Does this item bring me joy?”
Things that truly bring me joy – into boxes to stash and store.
Gifts to family and friends. Load after load to Salvation Army and women’s shelters. An auction house took two giant truck-loads. Several months later I received an itemized sales list with a not-fat-enough check. Cashed the check, never looked at the list.
And then I inherit my mother’s three-bedroom home with a packed-full-of-stuff two-car garage.
“Children. The time is Now. Take what you want.”
“Mom. We don’t want it.”
I come from a long line of Savers. I have been the repository for All Family Stuff. Thus, in the past year, I have reduced my lifetime of Stuff (No. More accurately: five generations of lifetimes) from two large homes to two 10’x20’storage units. Throughout this time, more sales and give-aways.
Down to only one of these units.
And I still have Stuff.
But as of last month, I’d down-sized to (#1) Stuff That Gives Me Joy and (#2) Stuff I Must Keep, such as tax records, photos, 35-mm slides of family (having discarded thousands of scenic slides early-on). For me, family photos and slides are “Must Keeps.”
Again and again, I asked myself: Does this item give me joy? Yes.
However. Do I have a place to display, use, or enjoy it? No.
Am I ready to release it? No.
Sigh.
So. Fed up with paying storage rental fees, I invested in a Tuff Shed. Surely my Stuff will fit into 8’x14’. It does. Barely.
Simplify and Release.
My Stuff has become a metaphor for my life.
I consciously choose:
What to keep.
What to discard.
Stuff.
Ways of Thinking.
Ways of Being.
The Past, of course, is part of Me.
I can bring it out at will.
Rely on it when necessary.
Love it.
Cherish it.
And lovingly tuck it away.
I am neither controlled nor defined by it.
My Past lives in a Tuff Shed.







